7 Ways to Find Your Purpose in Life and Live It


Follow these quick tips and learn how to turn passion into your destiny.

Are you doing all things you want with your life? Are you living up to your expectations?

Perhaps you wonder this as I often do.

Over the years, I’ve tried to live up to these action steps to have a more purposeful life. Am I perfect? Far from it. I wanted to share this with you. Sometimes a small improvement can yield big results.

Ready. Fire. Aim.


It’s good to kick the tires on your goals now and again. But sometimes you have no clue what you want to be when you grow up.

Have you found your true calling?

Writer Joseph Murphy suggests the following approach to discover and live your purpose: Ask your subconscious (God or intuition) for guidance, specialize in a branch of interest, and try to know more about your specialty than anyone else. Also, he adds that your endeavors should benefit others—and be selfless. (You can read more about his bestseller here.)

This doesn’t mean you need to be a caregiver or a penniless person to live out your purpose in life, but nobody likes someone who is always out for themselves.


The idea of helping others isn’t unique to Murphy. It doesn’t mean you have to go without in order to get. Gawain, Dyer, Oprah, and other leaders in personal development and business talk about having personal goals that, on the outset, may appear counter intuitive to success but ultimately bring you fortune.

Bringing altruism to a bigger field, in the work you do, whether its a chief executive officer of a startup or the server at an eatery, catering to others is real empowerment.

What’s in it for the other person? And how can you help them succeed?


I love to hear from people who have read my books and share something with me about them that resonated—sometimes it’s a character trait or a minor point in the story, other times something grander. Their appreciation of my work makes me want to write more.

One of the hardest things I’ve learned is how to take constructive criticism. Book reviewers can be cruel. But, you don’t have to be an author to experience criticism.

I remember sitting on the stage of a black box theater in New York after giving, what I thought was a killer performance, only to hear the opposite from my director. Then, there was the time at work that I had to rewrite an entire PowerPoint presentation, at night, because “I didn’t get it.”

Success isn’t about getting it right; it’s about taking direction and improving over time. And having the b@lls not to crumble into a ball and give up.

quadrants-CoveyI’ve often said to other writers, “Don’t get it right. Get it written.” Finish something…anything…don’t talk about it…don’t lament over why you don’t have the time to get it done perfectly. Write the damn thing! Trust me. You’re only going to have to rewrite it again later.

Success takes many adjustments.

I created a process (based off the Stephen-Covey quadrant above) that works for me (a spreadsheet I’ve used for about fifteen years) to schedule the important-but-not-so-urgent tasks. Spending too much time on necessities and non-important tasks results in never getting done what you really want.

I’m not perfect with this. In fact, this week I haven’t had time (focusing too much on crises) to get to the “big rocks” but I don’t beat myself over it. (Well, only just a little.)


If you have a passions for riches, don’t deny it. Honor this ambition.

If you enjoy art, engage in it. Do you what you love, but don’t do it with unrealistic expectations.

I’m not talking about blindly following your passion. Quitting your day job to paint watercolors for a living—without an action plan for success—will ultimately lead you back to Quadrant I and focusing on crises.

Finding balance is key.

Don’t deny your interests. They’re there for a reason. Listen with your heart…your core. It’s not going tell you to throw caution to the wind and become a writer over night. Believe me! Back in 1997 when I came up with what I thought was a great idea I had all I could do but give my notice. I’m glad I didn’t. I’m still working on that very idea today. (My work in progress called Carolyn’s Turn—the prequel to Tim on Broadway—started out as a screenplay and morphed into a novel.)

Living in the moment and feeling the subtle nods of correction and guidance will get you there. Maybe not overnight. But it will get you there.


Seeing and feeling yourself as you’d like is probably the most important concept in making your dreams come true.

It wasn’t until I read Wayne Dyer’s Wishes Fulfilled that I understood the importance of the “feeling” side of creative visualization.

Seeing it isn’t enough. Peale and others have talked about the “thinking” and “seeing” aspects ad nauseam, but you have to know it.

Ask yourself what would it feel like to have what it is you want and take this sensation to sleep with you every night.


As a kid, I had such high expectations about what it meant to be a grown up. I wanted to be a teacher. I even became one for awhile until I realized it wasn’t being a teacher, in front of a class of students, that I wanted to be. It was something else.


My childhood ambitions still resonate for me.

I learned it wasn’t so much the cool things I liked,  as a kid, about a teacher: writing on the chalkboard, correcting papers, lecturing, being an authoritative figure, and assigning book reports.

Then, there were my other fantasies. As a child, I was fascinated with celebrities, the entertainment industry, and woman of power. (Of course I was!)

After much tries at this and that, I discovered I was good at writing, crafting a document, and creating a decent presentation—except for that aforementioned PowerPoint dec.

Today, I write about the worlds I created as a child. It’s adult make pretend.

Life is ever evolving. Who knows, tomorrow I may to turn to cooking for a living. Now that would be a challenge.

What did you love as a child? What elements of it still hold true for you today?


You owe it to society to live up to our greatest potential. When you succeed, the world does too.

Life is but a dream. Not my dream or yours, but our one dream.

The universality of it all has taken me a lifetime to comprehend. I am still working on it.

I’ve been told: I am God and so are you.

We’re more than just connected; we’re one in this uni-verse. Unfortunately, that radical terrorist is me, but I’m also that beautiful sunset and the winner of today’s jackpot.

Here are my recommendations for products and services I believe can create effective results.

  1. Site Build-It. Build your own business on the web.
  2. Wayne Dyer’s You’ll See It When You Believe It. A great book to turn your life around.
  3. Steve Pavlina. Personal development for smart people.
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2 thoughts on “7 Ways to Find Your Purpose in Life and Live It

  1. Such good advice there, Rick. My only comment is further advice from my own experience. It is so important not to make heavy weather of things, When I was younger I studied all sorts of teachings and ideas from others but, in the end, I found that the answers were within me. I found I had to be aware of what opportunities and choices Life itself was bringing my way and then have the courage and faith to embrace them.
    Sometimes, all the seeking and trying just had the opposite effect. I became very confused as people suggested this, that and the other. There is a scripture that is attributed to Jesus …. he says: ‘My yoke is easy and My burden is light’…..that could be applied to Life itself speaking within us. ‘Let go and let God’ we used to say. Well, I say now….’Let Go and let Life’! Let the inner creative forces lead and guide…..they will never fail us. Trust the Life which knows the way. In modern parlance….Go with the flow!
    While we are busy with charts and planning and plotting we are in danger of missing our path. It is better to relax into the flow of our lives and believe that the creative force within will present us with what we need and then act.
    Important to enjoy yourSELF … Your SELF … God … The creative power of the Universe does indeed lie within each one of us, for we are God, the creator. We are constantly creating. Energy follows thought is an esoteric maxim. We think of hundreds of things daily ….. It is when we ‘entertain’ a thought that we can land in deep water.
    When we ‘entertain’ friends to coffee, lunch or whatever, we make them comfortable, do all we can to be a good host, constantly in attendance looking to their needs. Entertaining a thought is like that, different from just thinking something. If I entertain a thought, dwell on it, cogitate, think on it constantly, it invariably becomes manifest sooner or later. Energy follows it and gives it substance.So, we have to watch what we think about and what we desire. Only ‘entertain’ positive thoughts so that positive and beneficial things happen.
    Someone said: The secret is not to strive to learn more and more things but to UNLEARN … to unlearn all the stuff we are indoctrinated with … and get to the bedrock of our own reality by yielding to the flow of Life. Touching our essence daily and abiding in its power to guide us and open the doors to our destiny. I guess it is the secret of living at the Centre of the Wheel, at that point of rest and surrender, instead of whirling round at the circumference in the miasma and changes of existence.
    So, Rick, what I am trying to say is that we should have fun, joy, and levity (in its true sense of course) … Be lighthearted, unburdened and allow our God nature to guide us. I know it has guided me all my life and still does. Most of what I have done has come to me totally unbidden…..it has flowed towards me and I have embraced it. Coming into contact with you is one example….beautiful….easy….all there within waiting to flow out…..what a wonderful prospect…. There is still more to come…..!
    I just love what you do on your blog, on facebook etc. There is a lovely breath of the spirit in it all. I can feel it and I am sure many others can also. Both you and Christopher have a pronounced aura of love and warmth. You are so blessed to have found each other. May you have many more years of happiness together.
    Love and big hugs to you both, and Bandit, of course. Glad his heart is okay but hope other problems are not giving too much trouble.

    1. Rick Bettencourt June 17, 2015 — 12:05 pm

      Roy your words are so true! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s important to let go and flow.

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