“You don’t create what you want, but what you are.”
- Wayne Dyer
Most of my life I’ve been obsessed with the psychology of transformation: how people can go from destitute to millionaire…or from three-hundred pounds to being a health coach.
The quote at the top of this email inspired me to share something with you.
I’ve been fortunate enough to have experienced a wonderful life. But, it wasn’t so easy.
I used to believe that if you wanted something bad enough, you could get it by working hard and being focused.
I was wrong.
There’s more to it.
The secret is in Wayne Dyer’s wisdom above, and can be gleaned from the phrase “money goes to money.” The reason this saying is bandied about so often is that it’s true! But, you can profit too.
The rich become richer. You become what you are. Negatively, if you’re fat, you’re going to attract more “fatness” into your life.
The hundred-thousand dollar question is, how does one stop attracting the junk they don’t want and start bringing in the good?
Answer: Be what you want.
It’s more than thinking yourself rich, for instance. You can think yourself a millionaire till the end of time. Real change starts with a thought, grows into a feeling…a knowing…and ultimately action.
How do you “be” something when you think—or even know—that you are not?
In my book Marketing Beef, Evan McCormick is stymied by an unsightly birthmark that covers his chest. It’s held him back from experiencing love: he’s fearful of being shirtless. How can he experience intimacy? Without giving away the ending, Evan learns to move past this by changing how who he is.
It starts with a thought and moves to a feeling.
Tim Benton is overweight and down on his luck. Yet he’s motivated to change. And he does so dramatically.
His intentions for a grander life build, compounding interest like Warren Buffet’s bank account.
If you want to experience something other than what you are, be your goal. You attract into your life what you think about and feel deep inside. You receive what you are.
If you know you’re in debt or nearing bankruptcy and you want prosperity, focus and live from the wealth—however meager it may seem—that you do have. There’s much to be grateful for.
Change your perspective, and your perspective will change.
I send you love, happiness, and everlasting wealth…
Thy brow is girt, thy robe with gems inwove;
And palaces of frost-work, on the eye,
Flash out, and gleam in every gorgeous dye,
The pencil, dipped in glorious things above,
Can bring to earth. Oh, thou art passing fair!
But cold and cheerless as the heart of death,
Without one warm, free pulse, one softening breath,
One soothing whisper for the ear of Care.
Fortune too has her Winter. In the Spring,
We watch the bud of promise; and the flower
Looks out upon us at the Summer hour;
And Autumn days the blessed harvest bring;
Then comes the reign of jewels rare, and gold,
When brows flash light, but hearts grow strangely cold.
About This Poem
Emily Chubbuck Judson was born in Eaton, New York, in 1817. Her books include An Olio of Domestic Verses (1852) and Charles Linn, or, How…
Most of you probably remember Steve Martin as that “wild and crazy guy” from SNL, the father from Parenthood, or the writer of such hits as Shopgirl and An Object of Beauty. Recently, I learned he wrote a memoir describing how he rose to success. His story, while unique, shares a likeliness to many other star actors, famous writers, celebrity artists, and successful entrepreneurs.
“Be so good they can’t ignore you.”
-Steve Martin, actor, writer, and comic.
These words from the performer are profound. Focus on one thing, and be as good as you can at it.
Martin and Perry, huge successes in their fields, remind us to be diligent about purpose. Whether you want to be a writer, musician, chef, or stockbroker, be it. Do it. Live it. Breathe it.
Some of us have so many logs in the fire it takes a connection to the Alaskan pipeline to keep it stoked. Some of us feel we have to keep many balls in the air to pay our mortgages, send our kids to college, and meet the deadlines of a demanding world. Some want the right job; others need a job right now.
It all starts with conviction.
Theodore Roosevelt told us, “believe you can and you’re halfway there.” Perry told us the same thing.
If you’re looking to breakout, the advice from these successful people speaks volumes.